The Pause That Refreshes
In our crazy busy lives, we don’t often pause.
Stop. Halt. Cease. Be.
We go. Move. Hurry. Worry. Do.
How do we even begin to slow down?
One small step at a time.
Mindful Exercise (from Rubin Naiman, PhD in a year of Living Mindfully)
At a time when you feel calm, jot down a few situations that caused moderate to significant reaction – perhaps irritation, anger, anxiety. Could be getting the kids out the door. Or being stuck in traffic. Or feeling burned out at work. Think of ones that tend to recur.
Select one and for the next week, have the intention of pausing inwardly in the midst of the situation if/when it recurs. For no more than 60 seconds, try to offer a nonjudgmental, neutral appraisal of what’s happening. Take deep breaths. Notice how your body feels. Instead of “I’m going to be late for work again!” try, “Traffic is bad today. I’ll get to work when I get to work”.
See if you notice any difference between reactivity vs mindful awareness. With practice, you will.
Quote of the week:
“Life is lived in the pauses, not the events.” – Hugh Prather, Morning Notes: 365 Meditations to Wake You Up