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Ask Dr. Emily – Autism and Voting

Welcome to the November edition of Ask Dr. Emily!

We often receive questions that we want to share with all our readers. To help with this, Dr. Emily Neuhaus, a clinical psychologist at Seattle Children’s Autism Center, will share insights in a question and answer format.

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Autism 206: Transition to Adulthood: Housing Options – A Panel Discussion

This month’s Autism 200 Series class is Transition to Adulthood: Housing Options – A Panel Discussion.

The housing crisis continues to negatively impact families and individuals with ASD, and it is expected to worsen, with an estimated 500,000 Read full post »

Ben’s Fund Now Offering Grants for Young Adults With Autism!

We hear it too often- what happens when our kids become adults?

Who will make sure their needs are met? How will families navigate this transition?  Where will funding come from?  Where do we go from here?

Recognizing the growing need for resources, support and direction for families with young adults on the autism spectrum, John and Traci Schneider have yet again paved the way to provide a glimmer of hope for families navigating this transition into adulthood.

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Autism 205: Inclusion: What’s Working and What’s Next? – A Panel Discussion

People with social, intellectual and behavioral differences are making positive changes in their own lives and in the lives of others. From education to policy to employment, the future is brighter because those with autism and other abilities are speaking out, stepping up and changing the way our society operates.  Read full post »

Parallel Paths in Adult Transition

As a veteran parent of a child with autism, I thought I was prepared to handle just about anything as we approached her eighteenth birthday.

 

 

I had years of experience under my belt, locating, navigating, and accessing services for her and many others in my work.

I had my adult transition checklist: Apply for guardianship. Check. Apply for SSI. Check. Set up special needs trust account. Check. Check in with DDA case manager. Check. Look into residential housing options. Check. Everything was going relatively smoothly, which means I found my way through the mazes with a little more confidence and a little less stress than in years past. I had hit my stride, strutting my parental best-self, and moving forward.

And then the unexpected happened.

I was standing before a court commissioner at my daughter’s guardianship hearing. She was talking but my focus kept waxing and waning as I began to experience an out-of-body sensation. I was physically present but my brain felt as if it were up on the ceiling observing from above.

She was praising the fine job I’d done caring for Carrie the past 18 years. “Well, of course!” I thought. “I’m her mother!” Then she sternly looked at me and told me that from this day forward, in the eyes of the law, I was no longer her mother. I was her legal guardian – held accountable to the court. There would be records to keep and reports to file. My mind was playing tricks on me again. Of course I would be accountable. I’m her mother!

On my way back to the car, I tripped, ripping my pants and badly scraping my knee. I sat in the car, knee stinging and mind numb, and tried to make sense of what had just occurred. Why was I so unnerved?

Was it the finality of missed milestones or comparing her future as an adult to peers or her brother? No. I’ve never been one to compare her to others. Was I afraid I wouldn’t live up to the court’s expectations of me as her guardian? Nope. Not that.

This is what I came to: Her entire life, I’ve been her protector, her advocate, her teacher, her therapist, her supporter … her mother

And then one morning in court, I was not.

Nothing could have prepared me for that. This was the beginning of a shift that I realized was not just for her but for me as well.

Adult transition has proved to be as challenging as getting her diagnosis and initiating all the supports and services she has needed. It’s a lot of work and I’m 20 sleep-deprived years older than I was then.

Just as I didn’t want her diagnosis 18 years ago and would have liked to pretend it wasn’t happening, I don’t want to transition from her trusted pediatric providers – but I can’t pretend.

So, dear parents and pediatric providers, here’s my message to you as you approach adult transition for your child, your patient.

  • Don’t put off the inevitable until the last minute. Find out what the transition policy is for each of your child’s providers. It may not be the same for each department or specialty.
  • Perhaps you don’t know what resources there are for young adults in each specialty. How about exploring this together?
  • Dear provider, maybe you don’t feel it’s your job to have this talk with parents – but if not you, then who? Who better than the person we’ve trusted with our child for almost their entire life?
  • It’s likely that we’re both feeling anxious about this and wish we didn’t have to part ways. We’ve been through a lot together, problem-solving many challenges, and this is no different.
  • Partner together to make this less stressful and a better outcome for all.